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Stressed out - When Will the Bubble Burst?
We live in a very mental world that has little understanding and acceptance about feelings. When strong feelings arise, your mind normally needs to rationalize them or suppress them in some way. Unresolved suppressed feelings create internal tension and anxiety.
When you continue to accumulate internal tension and anxiety of any kind, unhealthy activities can become a distraction from those feelings.
You start to engage in your distractions more and more as it takes away your anxiety.
This is how you get obsessive, compulsive, a workaholic, alcoholic, drug or sex addicted, fitness freak, perfectionist or any other addicted behavior that are done out of proportion of what is safe and healthy for you.
The bad part is that distractions really are effective for a while. You won't feel your feelings as long as you run with the distraction. Unfortunately the day when you for some reason can't continue to distract yourself, you will have all the suppressed feelings coming up as a strong force inside of you. This might be the day your economy or relationship falls apart, you get sick, you have a work overload breakdown or get laid off.
As long as you run with the distraction, you won't feel the real feelings underneath, you won't be in contact with your physical needs but you will have the anxiety and especially at night when you try to go to sleep.
Anxiety is a natural protection mechanism that tells you about your inner tension level. When the tension level gets to high, you will feel the anxiety.
Our outside stress level matches our inside tension level.
We all have a tendency of choosing a high stress level in our physical life.
Stress is a distraction from feeling your internal feelings. To stay away from the anxiety and our inner tension, you choose the outside stresses in your life.
Yes! You choose it, to cover up and distract you from feeling your inner tension. You might argue and say that "My work has that stress level independent of me".
It might be true but you choose to have that work that matches your inner tension with the outside stress.
The body can take a high stress level for a short amount of time as long as it is not continuously. Your physical, emotional and mental warning signals goes on when you over do your stress limit. If you do not pay attention to those signals and don't stop or say no more, then you put the stress pressure cooker on.
Can you keep it up forever?
If you have continuously ignored your inner tension level, it will harm you. You will pay a high price, physically, mentally and emotionally. Your body will take a toll and break down in physical illnesses like ulcers, colitis, back, neck and shoulder pain, migraine or even cancer.
Your mind will go in to obsession or burn out mode and you will accumulate more and more feelings, which again raise the inner tension level.